If you knew me in high school, you would know that I was negative. But, that was often a cover because I’m not comfortable opening up to people in such a public place. Still, I could be very negative outside of school as well.
Going into highschool was difficult for me. Not only did I have a lot going on at home, I also don’t handle transition well. It’s hard to be positive when everything seems out of your control. Depression makes it seem impossible to have a positive mindset. It IS possible, but it does take time.
I would say I started my journey to becoming a consistently positive person when I was a sophmore in highschool. I started my journey because being a negative person is exhausting. Many of us grew up in a negative setting and it does have an effect. We don’t have to settle for a negative and unhealthy lifestyle.
You should start off with pushing away the judgement you create when you see or hear others. We’re human, we have opinions, but, we need to try our best to catch them as they form and change them. Find something good to think about, maybe you think someone is being annoying but, instead, just tell yourself that they’re trying to have fun. Once you start this process, it’s important that you also don’t judge yourself. I always think I’m being annoying and when I admit it people just look at me like I’m crazy and tell me that they didn’t think I was being annoying, at all. We deserve to be ourselves without any guilt or judgement.
Something that really helps me is to follow positive influencers on my social media. I really like Madalin Giorgetta and her Facebook group. I think it’s really important to learn about the views of others instead of being closed off to what we already think. It’s easy to believe that what we think is always correct. As I get older, I realize how much my views and opinions have changed. I appreciate my growth.
Positive activities are a game changer. I volunteer for a hospice organization and I meet all of these people who have hundreds of stories. They all come from different decades and different walks of life. Hospice has allowed me to understand how to be grateful for life and all that it offers me. These people I meet have been through so much and still appreciate what they experienced because it made them who they are and they can teach the younger generations how to grow from challenges.
I have had many friends who think “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Every time I hear them say that I want to shake them and say “There is nothing you do that makes you deserve the pain you endure.” We are bound to feel heartache and pain in our lifetime. That does not mean we deserved to be cheated on, or lied to, or be left out. We can take responsibility for our actions but we cannot constantly blame ourselves for things that are out of our control. Instead of thinking “Why me?” we should think, “I appreciated the good times and I’m eager to grow from this. It allowed me to learn and I have become a better person for it.” Now, I understand that it’s hard to think that right away a difficult situation. After a breakup I probably wouldn’t think “Cool. That was fun and I’m glad I had my heart shattered.” But, eventually I would understand why I should be grateful. We can grow from everything that goes on in our lives or in the lives of those we love.
You should know that I have not perfected positivity. I am human. I definitely have my moments and I have them DAILY. I am eager to continue my journey in living a more positive life and to share it with you.
Comment below how you think we can live a more positive life.
Lot’s of love,