I’m not good enough for anyone – why don’t people reach out? I’m annoying – Is that why my friends don’t stick around? I’m negative – I can be very negative and I hate it. I look like a boy – thanks to everyone who told me this or I wouldn’t think it.
- I’ve got a big nose – I hate my side profile.
- I’m not pretty – a long time insecurity.
- I’m not in-shape – I work out but I’m not a skinny girl with a toned stomach.
- My legs are short and my waist is long, it makes me look weird.
- I’m not smart – because my memory isn’t the best and I always felt like my siblings were much smarter than I was.
- I’m a shitty girlfriend – I allow my OCD and anxiety take control where all I focus on is what didn’t get cleaned or habits I have that he doesn’t or I get so consumed in my own thoughts I forget to check in on him.
- I think I smell – I talked about this in my OCD blog.
- I don’t look good in outfits that other girls look good in.
- I have a big forehead – not always an insecurity, but if I we’re talking insecurities, I may as well post it.
I crossed out any topics I talked about in my last blog post. I want to go through the ENTIRE list because if I only address some of my insecurities, I won’t be able to talk through each of them for myself and for you. It might take a few posts, so I’ll try to post them faster, that way we can move onto a new topic. Also, I apologize for the delay on this post! I was not in the best shape mental health wise to write this during the week.
I’ve got a big nose (and forehead) + I’m not pretty. I think we all have things we pick apart about ourselves. I was always told I had pretty eyes but I looked boyish so I just started to pick my face apart. I have acne, a bigger nose, and I debate about my forehead, often. To be honest, that sounds so funny that I debate about if I think my forehead is big or not. Sometimes I think I want a nose job, but I also don’t want my kids to wonder where their nose came from. My nose is one of my biggest insecurities. I hate my side profile, but I also realize that a lot of people probably don’t notice it. A lot of people might hate something specific about themselves that I never even noticed. I try to embrace my face. I’m working on stopping those thoughts that say I’m not pretty and tell myself that I’m pretty and I’m fine how I am. I want to embrace my uniqueness. I can’t change what I look like. I mean, maybe one day I could, but I wouldn’t want to. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with surgery, I definitely don’t judge! But, I just don’t want to change my face. Maybe my nose, but not my entire face. It’s me. It’s what makes me unique. And financially, I can’t change it, so I better learn to love it!
You are your biggest critic. Don’t listen to that voice that says you’re not pretty. You are. You’re perfect in your own way. I wish I had a tip for overcoming this, but this is a battle with me, myself, and I. Just like if you have an insecurity about your looks it’s a battle that only you can fight. Also, looks are most definitely not everything. I’ve met a lot of pretty people who became not so pretty to me due to their personality.
I’m not in shape. This is a hard topic to talk about because what am I supposed to say. It’s so easy to obsess over what we do and what we eat. I recently found a girl on Instagram who completely embraces her flaws. To be fair, a lot of the fit girls try to embrace flaws and imperfections, but it’s hard to look at someone who’s in amazing shape and believe them. I’m sure they have their insecurities, but to tell us that it’s okay to not have abs while they have abs is hard to relate to. I recently discovered Mik Zazon on Instagram which then led me to find Ariella Nyssa. They’re refreshing. I try to only follow people that make me feel good. And I still follow some of those super in shape girls, but only a few. I used to follow tons and I would get so upset at myself for not doing what they were doing. Mik Zazon is all about rest. I love how she embraces her imperfections. I’m not saying to not work out, but I’m also not saying to obsess over working out. I embrace a healthy lifestyle but I’m trying not to obsess over it, as much. And that’s why I like Mik Zazon.
My legs are short and my waist is long. There are some Tik-Toks showing people sitting in chairs and one has long legs and a short waist and one has short legs and a long waist and then they stand up. It’s actually pretty funny. We’re all so different! Because I have a long waist, I have thick legs. That doesn’t bother me all the time, but I tend to think I look disproportional because I have chubby legs and a long waist. I just see myself as pudgy in every picture I’m in. I know some girls would love to have my legs, I totally get that. So, once again, rather than wish I was someone else, I try to embrace who I am and what I look like. It’s important that we shut down negative comments and replace them with positive ones. It’s important that we don’t compare ourselves to our friends because that does us no good.
- Practice positive mantras about yourself. Write them down, set a reminder that says the mantra, and repeat it to yourself. You are beautiful. You’re perfect in your own way. You are unique. There is NOTHING wrong with you.
I’m not smart. You guys, my siblings are SO smart. I’m the youngest of six, so I felt like I had a lot to live up to. We are all different. Some of them have an amazing memory and don’t have to study. I do not fall into that group. When I started struggling in school, I felt SO dumb. It started in 4th grade, and I got better. Then, in middle school I really started to struggle with math and science. It can be really defeating thinking all of your siblings did well, but you study and still struggle. It’s not that they didn’t struggle, but I didn’t know that. I always just felt like the odd one out because I struggled in a class that one of them would say was easy. Even with my friends, I always felt out of place. I struggled and they wouldn’t. It could be so frustrating because some of my friends didn’t even pay attention half of the time and still did better than I did. In reality, we all have completely different brains. Some people have amazing memory. Some people struggle in some subjects while others don’t. Some people are more artsy, some people need to study like crazy. You are not dumb just like I’m not dumb. I just don’t remember everything that’s taught to me. Also, different teachers make different classes easier to comprehend. Some teachers can’t reach you, some can.
You should embrace every bit of who you are while also trying to improve yourself every day. Remember that we’re human. We’re not meant to be perfect. But, that does not mean that we shouldn’t strive to be our best selves mentally and physically.
My part three of this series will be my last part! I’ll try to get it up sooner than later! I hope to get back on my schedule. I truly appreciate the support.
As always: stay positive!